 The other day I was looking through some items that a customer brought in for us to possibly purchase for 2 Shy Kids. I pulled out this Romper with the saying on the front, "Just Chill With Me." I look through hundreds of items everyday and I have never had a reaction to an item like this. This idea of taking a step back and chilling for even moment is so foreign to me. It’s almost as if this skill is not even in my tool belt but on this day I apparently needed a reminder!
Is there anyone else out there like me and needs the constant reminder to sit back and just chill for a moment? I am a constant doer who feels there is always something to be done, cleaned, planned, cooked, or organized! I take a moment and sift through Pinterest and guilt overwhelms every emotion that I have in my body! THE STRUGGLE IS REAL!!! I know I am not alone!! We see other people at their perceived best and we compare that with the worst we know about ourselves. I battle feelings of guilt, feeling like I am never doing enough. It feels like I am failing as a mom and a business owner if I happen to sleep in past 7am because of all the things I could have had accomplished if I had woken up at 5am. Maybe you are reading this and you have felt this guilt! These feelings are real and if you are not careful they can overwhelm your ability to be a healthy spouse, a present parent, a productive business owner, or a reliable employee. Our kids are screaming (sometimes in silence) for us to just chill with them. There are days that one of my kids will ask me to sit with them and to dive into their world for just a few moments. However, I would be lying to say I am not sitting there thinking about all the things on my to do list that never seems to get things crossed off and wondering what things could be done if I was not just sitting here. As I was looking at this adorable little Romper that says “Just Chill With Me,” I could hear the voices of my 3 kids in my head saying these exact words to me and it almost brought tears to my eyes. Had the customer not been standing right in front of me, I probably would have cried like a baby! I have heard those words come out of my kids’ mouth on more than one occasion. I have seen these words in their facial and body language. I wish that I could tell you that every time I heard or saw these words coming through that I immediately stopped what I was doing and just chilled with them. Unfortunately, my reality is I have not always been able to just stop and be present with them. As I look back, I wish I had taken more time to just chill with my kids because the laundry will always be there, the mess can be cleaned later, the business tasks are not going anywhere, the grocery store isn’t going to run out of food, and those unpaid bills can be paid after the kids go to bed. Friends, our kids are growing and they growing fast. It’s happening in the blink of an eye and if we are not careful they will be all grown up and we will feel like we missed their entire childhood. You are not perfect and you are not going to seize every opportunity like you think your kids deserve. We need learn to savor those special moments and soak all of them in no matter how big or how small. Take a moment and slow down so your can notice more of these “Just Chill With Me” moments with your kids. I wonder if I can get all of kids to wear shirts that say “Just Chill With Me” as a constant reminder? I am clearly not perfect and no matter how much I try to be it’s not possible! I want progress to be my goal. Always moving forward and learning from the past so I can make the necessary changes for the future. Let’s stop letting guilt steal these moments away to Just Chill With Our Kids. Do not let the everyday busyness sneak into our lives and steal these moments from us! Take a moment and look around you and be grateful for all that you have…even the craziness! With Love! Brooke
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Chrystal Thomas
1/24/2019 12:32:32
Brooke I can relate with some of these things. One of my biggest flaws as a parent is not spending equal time with each child. I have noticed big difference with how my kids react around me, and maybe it’s just a phase, but it really bothers me with how they treat me compared to how they treat their dad. I know thus past year has been a tough one for my family, and we are still trying to bounce back. But to be honest that is really difficult when you are not physically, mentally or emotionally able too, or one of their siblings isn’t able to handle things in a certain setting or situation. I myself don’t do well with conflict or negativity so I just avoid it and cut things or people out if I have too, which is not a way to live, but it makes things easier for me to handle. I feel like if I don’t go to my kids functions or know everything about their interests that I feel like I’m failing them as a mom. I get told regularly that I’m not, but feelings are feelings wether you agree with them or not. I hope we can find ways together to be better parents and spouses throughout this years so we can better ourselves.
Brooke Graves
1/24/2019 16:31:21
Crystal I totally understand... Parenting isn't easy and doesn't come with a manual though some days I wish each child came into the world with the manual written specifically for them. If you continue to look at yourself as a failure then you are going to continue to live that lie. When the reality is we are all doing the best we can. Again the key is progress, making baby steps in the direction we believe is best for our families. Doing your best not to shut out those that are important to you when in reality the issue maybe something small that takes an easy fix. You only are failing if you give up, which I know isn't in your nature :).
Brooke Graves
1/24/2019 16:37:06
It is such a hard thing to do when your mind is going in a thousand different directions. I am starting to try and sit aside intentional time to sit and chill with my kids.
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