The other day I was looking through some items that a customer brought in for us to possibly purchase for 2 Shy Kids. I pulled out this Romper with the saying on the front, "Just Chill With Me." I look through hundreds of items everyday and I have never had a reaction to an item like this. This idea of taking a step back and chilling for even moment is so foreign to me. It’s almost as if this skill is not even in my tool belt but on this day I apparently needed a reminder!
Is there anyone else out there like me and needs the constant reminder to sit back and just chill for a moment? I am a constant doer who feels there is always something to be done, cleaned, planned, cooked, or organized! I take a moment and sift through Pinterest and guilt overwhelms every emotion that I have in my body! THE STRUGGLE IS REAL!!! I know I am not alone!! We see other people at their perceived best and we compare that with the worst we know about ourselves.
I battle feelings of guilt, feeling like I am never doing enough. It feels like I am failing as a mom and a business owner if I happen to sleep in past 7am because of all the things I could have had accomplished if I had woken up at 5am. Maybe you are reading this and you have felt this guilt! These feelings are real and if you are not careful they can overwhelm your ability to be a healthy spouse, a present parent, a productive business owner, or a reliable employee.
Our kids are screaming (sometimes in silence) for us to just chill with them. There are days that one of my kids will ask me to sit with them and to dive into their world for just a few moments. However, I would be lying to say I am not sitting there thinking about all the things on my to do list that never seems to get things crossed off and wondering what things could be done if I was not just sitting here.
As I was looking at this adorable little Romper that says “Just Chill With Me,” I could hear the voices of my 3 kids in my head saying these exact words to me and it almost brought tears to my eyes. Had the customer not been standing right in front of me, I probably would have cried like a baby! I have heard those words come out of my kids’ mouth on more than one occasion. I have seen these words in their facial and body language.
I wish that I could tell you that every time I heard or saw these words coming through that I immediately stopped what I was doing and just chilled with them. Unfortunately, my reality is I have not always been able to just stop and be present with them. As I look back, I wish I had taken more time to just chill with my kids because the laundry will always be there, the mess can be cleaned later, the business tasks are not going anywhere, the grocery store isn’t going to run out of food, and those unpaid bills can be paid after the kids go to bed.
Friends, our kids are growing and they growing fast. It’s happening in the blink of an eye and if we are not careful they will be all grown up and we will feel like we missed their entire childhood. You are not perfect and you are not going to seize every opportunity like you think your kids deserve. We need learn to savor those special moments and soak all of them in no matter how big or how small. Take a moment and slow down so your can notice more of these “Just Chill With Me” moments with your kids.
I wonder if I can get all of kids to wear shirts that say “Just Chill With Me” as a constant reminder? I am clearly not perfect and no matter how much I try to be it’s not possible! I want progress to be my goal. Always moving forward and learning from the past so I can make the necessary changes for the future. Let’s stop letting guilt steal these moments away to Just Chill With Our Kids. Do not let the everyday busyness sneak into our lives and steal these moments from us! Take a moment and look around you and be grateful for all that you have…even the craziness!